Hostile Takeover to Hospitable Communities: Thank You!

So, as I’m sure you’re aware, this year we had a referendum on whether or not the UK should stay a member of the EU. Sadly, we as a nation, decided to leave the EU. In the wake of that, racist, religious and homophobic attacks (physical and verbal) has increased drastically.

One group who have taken a lot of the brunt of this has been the Muslim community. They’ve been taking shit from people for years and years and have always responded with respect, dignity and love, even to those who are cruel and abusive to them. I have always loved and admired the Muslim community for how unconditionally caring they are and tried to help raise awareness about and demystify Islam with the help of some friends. You can read about that here.

Time and time again, they’ve shown me compassion, love and friendship when I need it most and when I’m, quite frankly, a terrible friend. And it’s not just me either. (Side note: I shouldn’t have to say this, but that doesn’t mean my other friends from other faiths aren’t equally as nice.)

Recently, some friends of mine took over my Facebook and posted that I’d converted to Islam. And while that wasn’t true, it did, once again show just how wonderful the Muslim community is.

While lots of my friends thought this was true, I had loads of calls from my Muslim friends. Every single one of them was so happy to hear that I had converted to Islam. I had to disappoint them all one by one but the love and acceptance they showed me while they thought it was true was incredible. They offered me help, invited me to their mosques, invited me for food and offered to teach me about Islam. They welcomed me into their community with no questions, no judgments and with positivity and love.

Even when I did my Fast for a Friend thing, one of my friends bought me dinner for iftar all the way from Bury. I was invited by so many of my friends’ friends to iftar at their houses. They were willing to welcome a complete stranger who wasn’t even Muslim, to eat with them and pray with them and learn with them during Ramadan. I even got a few tweets from SuperSaf showing support (one of my favourite tech YouTubers).

I am constantly blown away by the Muslim community and their welcoming nature. I really hope that you can experience Islam the way I have, from an outside perspective but with the same love that I’ve seen.

Do NOT let mainstream media and pieces of shit horrible people like Trump convince you that Islam is evil. The greatest threat to the world isn’t Islam. It’s horrible, closed minded, racist, religiously discriminatory people. They’re the greatest threat to the world.

I’m so grateful to my Muslim friends. You all teach me how to be a better person and I do not know what I’d do without you all. I’m going to try to spread as much joy and goodness as all of you. Thank you!

A

Karma: A Beginners Guide

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Karma is a wonderful thing. I don’t believe it’s the universe rewarding good deeds with more good stuff. But I very much believe that you get what you give and it’s other people that give it back.

No one is perfect. Anyone that claims they are is wrong. No matter how wonderful I think my friends are, they’re not perfect. I’m far from it myself. Even Mary Poppins wasn’t perfect. Practically perfect but not perfect. It’s difficult to be perfect. Even the pursuit of perfection is hard and ultimately fruitless. But it’s easy to not be an arse. And when you’re not an arse, people will be nicer to you and opportunities will be easier to come by.

So here are my five top tips for Karma.

1. Be Genuine

When people can see that you’re genuinely trying to help they will appreciate it more. It’s so so obvious when you’re doing good things just to be praised. It’s cringeworthy to see people doing stuff and patting themselves on the back. If you’re going to help someone, make sure you want to do it. Half arsed help could potentially do more damage than good.

2. Be Humble

Following on nicely from being genuine, be humble. There’s literally nothing worse than people patting themselves on the back and thinking they’re hot shit because they shared a link on Facebook about some poorly sourced information that sounds like it should be true and progressive. Bill and Melinda Gates (along with tons of other people) helped to virtually eradicate polio. How often do you hear them going to talks and saying “Yeah, I basically eradicated polio, no biggie.”? You don’t. Humble is good. Humble brags aren’t.

3. Don’t Promise More Than You Can Do

Doing good is wonderful. Promising to do good is also good as long as you can do it. If you’re a graphic designer with no other talents, do not offer to build a wall in someones garden. If you can’t do something, don’t do it. I’m not saying just walk away and leave it at that. You can still support that person to find the help they need.

4. Take The Opportunity To Be Kind

If you see someone in need of support, offer that support. Simple really. If they accept your help, you’ll be able to do some good for someone. If they say no, wish them well and leave them to it. The gesture will have been appreciated. Sometimes you don’t even see that someone needs help. There is always an opportunity to be kind. Always.

5. Enjoy Being Kind

You should enjoy being kind to others. It’s a wonderful feeling for you and it’s a fantastic feeling for others. As mentioned in my post absolutely years ago, you can’t be selfless all the time. It’s okay to be selfish sometimes and it’s okay to enjoy what you do, even if it’s meant to be a selfless act. Also, the more you enjoy what you do, the more you’ll do it and in turn, the more people will want to be kind to you.

If you follow these top 5 tips to Karma, if you’re kind, genuine and humble, Karma and the people around you will be kind to you.

What are your top tips to make the most of the swings and roundabouts? 🙂

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